Okay. So I was diagnosed with oral herpes on my genitals in March. I read that HSV-1 has low reoccurences and generally doesn’t bother victims much after the initial outbreak. However, I can count on one hand the pain/itch/sores-free days I’ve had since the first outbreak. My clitoris is always sore and swollen and red and it makes it completely unbearable to use menstrual cups or tampons, and pads irritate my vulva. My period seems to set it off. Sex is completely unbearable and leaves me feeling as though I’m sitting on an open flame. It hurts to pee, sit, stand, or even move. Acyclovir works but my doctor refuses to prescribe suppression therapy because “it’s only oral herpes, it’s not bad enough.”
Does anyone else have this problem? I was expressly told it’s HSV-1, not HSV-2, and my boyfriend has oral herpes and not genital, and he’s the only one I could have gotten it from. Any advice?
So my boyfriend is black and I am white. That doesn’t mean shit to me, but my father hasn’t spoken to me in eight months because my boyfriend being black is A Huge Deal. My boyfriend is literally everything my dad ever wanted for me - a good provider, caring, gentle, kind, funny, great with children, and always has my interests at heart. But he’s black, which apparently cancels out all that.
My mom is trying to be supportive of me and talk to my dad, but he’s informed her he does not have a daughter. He used to complain to his family that his daughter was “shacking up with a n*****” - now he just says “who?” when he’s asked about me. My mom has told me that he doesn’t want my boyfriend or me to come home for the holidays (we live in another state), and that he has no interest in meeting my boyfriend.
It’s getting pretty serious. My boyfriend and I are going to get married. And I don’t think my father will even attend the wedding.
Has anyone else ever experienced this problem? Have you ever dated someone your parents didn’t approve of and they reacted like this? Was it because of race? How did you handle it? What was the outcome?
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- You are not weak.
- You have not lost this battle.
- You are not selfish.
- You are not out of control.
- All the progress you made hasn’t magically disappeared.
- You are not a failure.
- Life is a cycle of highs and lows- good times are ahead, so keep going forward.
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